I am from West Palm Beach, (Sunny South) Florida USA and my better half, Alberto Zilberti, is a pure-blooded Bergamasco (Bergamo, Lombardy, Italy).
Where and when did you meet your significant other?
We met September 18th 2015. I had a two-week trip visiting 3 girlfriends who lived all around northern Italy. The last weekend I spent with my friend Marianna in Bergamo. We watched the movie ‘Letters to Juliet’ my first night. Then, the next day she took me to Verona to write my own letter to Juliet. It was such a magical experience. That very night, just a few hours after writing that letter, we returned to Bergamo that afternoon. We went out to a local bar (Cubo Café in Seriate) where I found the watering hole of beautiful Italian men and the very best one offered to help me get a beer since I “didn’t speak Italian”. I responded in Italian “it’s ok, I can do it.” He stole my seat while I was up getting my beer and we talked the whole time until he had to go home. The next day, Marianna had to work, so Alberto and some of his friends took me out to see the beautiful Città Alta. We exchanged numbers and I left to go back to Florida at 3am the next morning. When I landed in Florida I already had a text waiting from him and from that day forward I have never woken up without a “good morning” from Alberto.
Who made the first move?
Well, I think everything was pretty mutual from the very beginning. We both talked, both flirted, there were no ‘moves’ really – I guess he made the first big gesture by buying a plane ticket to visit me for Halloween two weeks after meeting.
Where did you initially think he was from?
I was the foreigner when we met so obviously I knew he was Italian, and he knew I was American.
What was your first impression of him?
Hmm… first impression was that he had the same sense of humor as me. Even with language barriers it was just always really easy to talk to him.
Where do you live now?
Now we live together in Bagnatica (Bergamo).
Have you learnt each other’s languages?
Yes. I studied Italian at Florida Atlantic University and travelled a lot to Italy previously, but taking classes and living in Italy every day is completely different. After this year living here I can finally say I’m almost fluent. Alberto studied English in school and since meeting me has taken courses, practices on his own and obviously with me. We watch movies only in original language (so basically always in English!).
Any advice to “mixed” culture couples or couples doing long-distance?
- To “mixed” cultured couples – have patience with each other! Sometimes it’s hard to remember that they have learned how to interact with life in a different way than you. The smallest things can be frustrating at times, but instead of being stubborn, try to see things from their side or settle on something in the middle. This is much easier said than done!
- To long distance couples – be as open and honest as possible. Tell your partner even about the smallest parts of your day. You don’t get the luxury of being physically close all the time, so be as emotionally/mentally close as possible. Remember that this isn’t just your significant other, but it should be like talking to your best friend. Keeping a schedule is a good thing too.
Submitted by Brittni.
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Vi auguro tante belle cose. xoxo
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