Dear College Crushin',
I basically have two scenarios here and my answer changes depending on the scenario. The first is that your Italian-Spanish crush is a legit foreign student and grew up in Europe, the second is that he is a cast member of Jersey Shore (in the sense that he is "Italian-Spanish" which when said out loud, is accompanied by the *quote/unquote finger gesturing*). I'm assuming the first for this answer because for the second scenario, it's pretty simple- with American college guys, you can make the first move, in fact sometimes you're obliged to unless he's got his liquid courage up. But in the case of the sexy foreign student with an Italian upbringing (I can't speak for the Spanish part, but I could make assumptions that the Spanish are similar to Italians)...LEAVE THE FIRST MOVES TO THE MEN. I know that it seems so archaic to say but I've done my share of dating foreigners and profiling international couples (with a specialization on Italian men) to know that they tend to do things old school. Let them flex that legendary Latin lover muscle, wait that could be misunderstood! What I meant to say is let him live up to the Latin lover stereotype and trust in good 'ol biology where the men do the hunting. That's not to say you should completely ignore him or not make yourself known to him but do it in the subtle ways of a chaste signorina from the days of The Godfather when you had to be supervised on dates by the entire village- give him a smile and some quick eye contact when you do cross paths. Then you wait it out. If he's interested, he'll find a way to talk to you, I absolutely guarantee this. If he doesn't, well he's just not that into you (or he's into someone else) and you might as well set your sights on another sexy foreign student, campuses are good for them!
I basically have two scenarios here and my answer changes depending on the scenario. The first is that your Italian-Spanish crush is a legit foreign student and grew up in Europe, the second is that he is a cast member of Jersey Shore (in the sense that he is "Italian-Spanish" which when said out loud, is accompanied by the *quote/unquote finger gesturing*). I'm assuming the first for this answer because for the second scenario, it's pretty simple- with American college guys, you can make the first move, in fact sometimes you're obliged to unless he's got his liquid courage up. But in the case of the sexy foreign student with an Italian upbringing (I can't speak for the Spanish part, but I could make assumptions that the Spanish are similar to Italians)...LEAVE THE FIRST MOVES TO THE MEN. I know that it seems so archaic to say but I've done my share of dating foreigners and profiling international couples (with a specialization on Italian men) to know that they tend to do things old school. Let them flex that legendary Latin lover muscle, wait that could be misunderstood! What I meant to say is let him live up to the Latin lover stereotype and trust in good 'ol biology where the men do the hunting. That's not to say you should completely ignore him or not make yourself known to him but do it in the subtle ways of a chaste signorina from the days of The Godfather when you had to be supervised on dates by the entire village- give him a smile and some quick eye contact when you do cross paths. Then you wait it out. If he's interested, he'll find a way to talk to you, I absolutely guarantee this. If he doesn't, well he's just not that into you (or he's into someone else) and you might as well set your sights on another sexy foreign student, campuses are good for them!
Quick Note: this is a new Category I'm testing out as a means to answer some of the e-mails or comments that I receive. They are modified or edited slightly for grammar and clarity purposes and the names made anonymous and any other identifying names or features have been changed. If you have a question, please write to Dear Jasmine at questadolcevitablog(at)gmail.com. I hope my answers can be helpful and if they're not helpful, at least humorous.
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